1905, 110 years ago, teddy roosevelt was president of the us, einstein was introducing his theories of relativity, the wright brothers flew a plane for more than half an hour, and psychologist sigmund freud was asserting that females have two different types of orgasms. immature, more masculine, goofy ones from the clit, and a second, more mature, sophisticated 'womanly'
orgasm from the vagina. (disappointed) freud. *whip cracking, throat clearing, hinge squeaking* i mean describing different kinds of orgasms is great, that's what this whole book does, but ranking them?
i think this is why i get so many questions about this elusive vaginal orgasm; something that they haven't yet made it to or unlocked, as if it's superior. like the person who said, or the one who wrote, or like, and this one, (exasperated) freud! i'm gonna help with all of this because it's not wrong to want these things but i certainly want to demystify the vaginal orgasm.
when it comes to orgasms, the whole body can be involved some people can orgasm from clenching their thighs, others from fantasy alone. i'm going to focus on the vagina and the specific areas there that have made things somewhat confusing. 1) the first third of the vagina which is sensitive in itself, but it also connects to the labia minora, which connects to the clitoral hood, which covers the clitoral glans and as the tissue is stimulated, there's a chain reaction to the clitoris so... maybe it's a clitoral orgasm? 2) the anterior wall of the vagina
about two knuckles in towards the belly button - there is a lot of debate about what is going on here. g spot, skene's gland, prostate, nothing at all... or it's really the internal roots of the clitoris. i explain this in this video here, in my interview with hank about the clitoris. 3)the upper vagina this area is thought not to experience a full range of sensations, but definitely understands pressure and the pinch during a pap smear. there is an orgasm from doing a kind of plunging action on the cervix but i don't recommend this because the cervix is not designed to be plunged. that's why it tries to move out of the way during arousal - this video on tenting. so... dangerous
three parts of the vagina, two probably causing clitoral orgasms and the third [causing] dangerous ones. so maybe there isn't a distinguishable vaginal orgasm. maybe it's a result of tugging on the clitoral hood during vaginal penetration or stimulation of the internal clitoris. a study published in october of 2014 insists that orgasms are all the same, but that's not what all researchers have found. the brain scans of bio-sex females masturbating their clits activate different areas in the sensory cortex than when they masturbate with vaginal stimulation. what ever is being activated, i know that some of you are still about cumming during vaginal penetration, during sex without a vibrator wedged in between your bodies.
i'll help you but i want you to consider 'why?' is it because that's what you've been told to do? is it because penis goes in vagina, penis cums, vagina should cum without any extra effort? there is a patriarchal system here, lead by father freud that our orgasms should come from the vagina when in fact the organ for our pleasure is the clitoris. imagine if you have a rose. it's a rose if you picked it from your garden, bought it at the store, got it as a gift; a rose by any other name would still smell as sweet. onward! orgasming in partner sex then is finding ways to stimulate the head of the clitoris, the first third of the vagina, and/or the interior walls of the vagina.
real simple; instead of moving like a pogo stick up and down on your partner's body during sex, go more like a cheese grater, using your partner's pubic bone to massage your vulva. tug tug! penetration can still happen, but you're connecting your high ranking sex organ, the clit, with your partner's pubic bone or abs. if there is a bulge here, a bigger belly, have your partner sit up. this will tighten the abs and make them more accessible. rolling up a towel to create pressure and putting it in between your two bodies can also help. and working out! your partner can also help by pulling you down on their body without actually controlling your tempo. if it's playing with a penis, use the angle of the erection and the penis' natural shape, like curving to the left here, to direct pressure to the anterior wall of the vagina. try different positions! use fantasy to get your mind into the moment. enhance your breathing,
practice kegels. mostly, blow off the pressure that tells you that your orgasm is supposed to look and feel and exist in specific ways. smell the roses and stay curious!
sex females,the majority of bio-sex females do not orgasm from or during partnered sex, they orgasm from masturbation, and if you'd like to learn more, here is a video about anatomy here's one on masturbating, me answering questions about how the vagina changes during arousal, the clitoris interview and bringing your sexy back.